When it comes to business, there are times when we have to negotiate on certain terms like cost, marketing strategy etc. with those that are working with us on the venture.

When we have to finalize our salaries in new jobs, negotiations also do occur. Communication skills are a true helping tool here too and there are certain things one has to make a mental note of when entering discussions centered on negotiation.

Important tips to apply in negotiation:

We must remember the importance of politeness and confidence here too as everywhere else.

Politeness is the vehicle to success but it must be powered with utmost confidence to bring your opponents to your side and let them agree with your viewpoint.

The sphere of influence comes into picture here because it helps to create an ambience conducive for the discussion to come in your favor. A simple visualization of having everybody in your sphere of influence with the control of the sphere in your hands is the psychological tactic to exercise control for the sake of convincing others. You will learn this feat with experience and later on you won’t be requires to visualize it; it will get created automatically.

You must explain your notions with a clear intent when entering discussions that focus on negotiations of some kind.

Your body language must show total confidence and enthusiasm. Yes, one has to be enthusiastic about the new venture, project or the job. It is important that you listen to the other person with complete patience. One has to be very clear about what one needs in reality and must have the enthusiasm to look into what the other person wants.

It is better to have a few options with you than to run to an extreme end like cancellation.

Patience is the master key here. One has to learn to put commas instead of full stops in business deals and job recruitments. Be completely balanced in such meetings. You must analyze the pros and cons of your dealing and other options very carefully. Entering a state of silence may help you in this regard. Look before you leap…

You must be well informed about the deal at hand and the persons involved. The stronger your information base; there will be better chances of having the deal in your favor.

Don’t you want a win-win deal my dear? Let not your confidence leak during the discussion. Sit upright and remember that you have an equal role to play here.

Do not resort to lies during such meetings because deals go on for long durations of time and if the reality gets uncovered, you would be probably spoiling your relations forever.

Negotiation is not a competition, it is a general discussion to arrive at a consensus and go ahead with the business. It is not a one-time deal also. We may be interested in further deals with the same person or organization.

Do not get into a hot discussion because business deals are a serious communication between two interested parties. This may spoil the word of mouth about the parties involved.

One has to have a complete control over temperament while participating in such meetings. Otherwise, one can request some other person to discuss on their behalf. Remember, negotiations are meant to make and not to break. Though exceptions may occur but your prime motive should be to sign a contract in the end of such a meeting.

Do not take the other party for granted. Explain about your stand in a very professional manner. At the same time, be a good listener too and do not make haste through this process. Once frozen, you cannot change any of the clauses of the final agreement. Be very careful, for the business needs oxygen to survive. Do not poison the business with your foolish actions.

Negotiations mark the beginning of a new business relationship and the relationship may last for a long time. Hence patience, silence, tolerance and a very attentive listening form the vital parts of such a conversation.

All the best.

Today I am going to tell you some more practical actions to help you.
But remember you have to apply them, they will not be applied by just reading them, take action and try to do if not all of them at least some of them.

5- It is better to correct the mistakes of the children not by shouting at them.

But by letting them be with you, let them sit in your lap and then slowly pop up with a story to let them know what mistake they had committed and how they must correct it.

6- Try to be good yourself first.

And then try to teach these things to the kids because any kind of inconsistency in your personality will be easily recorded by the receptive minds of the children and they will also learn the art of deception with time.

7- Politeness, good reasoning skills, well groomed body language etc.

These attitudes are picked by the children by observing their parents and people who are present in their environment. These come all by themselves and no special sessions are needed. Still the children need proper monitoring by their parents and loving explanations to correct them if some flaws are present.

8- It is advisable that parents do not indulge in any kind of fights in front of the kids.

That is to keep them away from learning this act. Children learn to appreciate peace and harmony only when we create an environment of that kind ourselves in the house.

9- Parents have to have total involvement with the kids.

Because they won’t accept you at your own will; they have their right to exercise their choice and freedom. At the same time it must be remembered that they are fragile and need utmost care and attention.

10- Small jobs can be assigned to them with time and a sense of responsibility can be slowly inculcated among them.

11- Pampering to a certain degree is necessary because children need special attention at times.

12- Do not impose your thought patterns on them.

Let them pick up what suits them the best. After all, all of us are unique creations of nature. These implicit norms apply to teachers also who are equally responsible for shaping the personalities of the children.

In the case of children the sphere of influence must be unique that is it must be filled with affection and soft feelings where they feel nurtured and safe. Try to become a child to connect with them. They would find your presence welcome. Children understand the language of love not force. Send love and receive love. You will receive the strongest current of love form kids. Try it yourself and relish the experience.

Happy Parenting and child mentoring.

Children are one of the most precious gifts we have on this planet and they need a lot of attention and care in the process of growing up and developing into responsible citizens. We have to exercise a lot of caution when communicating with children because, printing of thought patterns takes place instantly in the case of children and they remember the incidents forever.

Children are like programmable logic boards we use in the world of computers and electronics and things are very difficult to erase from the minds of children. One has to be very careful handling them.

The prime factor is to come from the feelings of unconditional love and forgiveness when communicating with children.

Let us see how we can communicate effectively with children:

1- The very first thing we must remember in this case is that we have to relate with the children and not dominate them.

One has to come down to the level of understanding what the children want and what would make them feel at ease. It is very important to discipline them but this should come gradually through bringing them to understand the realities of life slowly and with a lot of love and patience.

2- Shouting at the kids or beating them should be strictly avoided.

For they will get used to this with time and you would not be able to make them good people; rather negative thought patterns would damage their natural growth.

3- Try to connect with the children with soft words and be friendly with them.

Stories and games are the best ways to come in close proximity with them and plant seeds of good manners, ethics and discipline on this soil.

4- Try to watch what your children like the most.

And create an environment conducive for their natural and unhindered growth.

These are some practical actions to communicate effectively with our children,
I will tell you a lot more in the next post.
See you then.

Remember, we all are made up of energy. Albert Einstein has given us the famous equation Energy = Mass * (square of speed of light). In fact we all are embodiments of energy and we can be physically seen because we all carry weight or mass. So it is all the play of energy wherever you go because we all are the same within. Our external shells may have become different owing to the external environment we all get but still we all are the same within. It may physically seem very difficult at times to communicate with people whose nature does not match with us but there are certain ways using which even such people can be convinced and a healthy communication can result anyhow.

When we are to communicate with anyone we exercise our sphere of influence. It is basically a psychological way of assuming that all those listening to us are in our sphere of influence and the control is in our hands. The very first thing to do when dealing with tough people is to be polite and start thinking about the sphere of influence becoming stronger and stronger to the extent that the difficult person’s energy level is slowly shifting to your energy level and you have brought them to a level of resonance. It is during this visualization of resonance you start communicating with that person and it becomes a win-win situation for you.

It is essential to maintain your polished behavior throughout the session and do not hesitate to offer a glass of water, a cup of coffee or other welcome things during the course of your conversation when dealing in such situations. At times, try to solve the queries put forth by such people using real life examples or using some well known past statistics of your industry to let them understand your viewpoint. Facts and figures relevant to the situation help a lot.

Maintaining a confident eye contact is very important because it helps you to strengthen your sphere of influence. A persistent smile with a poised way of speaking really does miracles in such cases. Do not lose your confidence. Rather feel that every stare by such a person amplifies the level of your confidence. You must learn the art of staying balanced whatever be the situation. Let not your bulb get fused due to such power surges. They come and go and there may be many other stubborn people to handle everyday. After all these are surprises, are they not?

Never give away your energy in such situations by fidgeting or fumbling. Rather have a nice cup of coffee, offer the same to the other and maintain the imagination that both of you have reached a state of consensus. “Mind” really is a very powerful magnet and you will surely receive what you ask for by projecting your mental images or patterns. It is advisable to keep your posture upright when in such meetings and project a lot of politeness from your overall mannerism to let the difficult to deal with type of people automatically surrender to the overall positive environment created by using your mental powers.

Think and you shall receive is what many seers have taught since ancient times. The time has come to apply your positive powers of the mind to bend any rod that comes your way, be it in your business or personal lives. Remember, bring a state of resonance to convince people about your ideas, it is truly very easy, just thinking and projecting the thought to expand and encircle the people communicating….

Communication skills are the golden keys to success wherever you are. There is no fixed set of rules in this area it is an ever evolving area and people add more to it through their individual success story. Yet there are certain norms that one should endeavor to follow as a matter of general practice in order to start with. For instance, let us start with body language. A person who does not sit in a proper posture in a public meeting or interview may communicate the state of not being interested in the matter. See how people can get to know about you simply through your gestures and posture. This constitutes the area of body language interpretation under communication skills.

Similarly the way one writes an application, the selection of words, the way margins are left and the presence or absence of certain salutations and precise words as prevalent in the industry may tell the person reading a lot about your personality. This comes under the purview of written communication.

It is advisable to talk to the people around politely, with proper composure and to use words that they can easily understand. You do not need to bombard the environment with your vocabulary. Learn to speak the language of the common masses with an impressive accent and confidence. Verbal communication deals with this aspect of interaction with people. A person who is well versed in the art of verbal communication maintains a complete balance of gestures, posture, words, accent, modulation, speed of delivery of words, using the right words at the right time, giving proper examples to reach the listeners well and an overall impact through one’s dress-up also. See there are so many overt as well as covert aspects of communication skills. One learns most of the things here through mistakes. Even experts in this area learn through blunders. Remember the saying “Nobody is perfect” but improvement can be continuously endeavored.

When appearing for an interview it is better to sit erect with a slight tilt of a few degrees not exceeding an acute angle of fifteen degrees towards the interviewers and maintain a favorable eye contact to create a positive environment for communication. It is better that you do not fidget or take your hands again and again over your face during this period. There have been many instances where rejection has come to deserving candidates due to absence of proper and welcoming body language. Even after you get the job, you always have to be good at communication skills in your workplace because the human resource department does monitor every activity of the employees to give them performance grades. So, you see how justified I was when I told you that these are the golden keys to success.

The entire body of the subject communication skills as such is essential for professionals from all spheres of activity as well as those that are directly involved in any profession because it helps one to present oneself properly and helps to package one’s concepts in the right motley-garb. Communication skills and the accepted norms therein rescue us from fitting square pegs in round holes. Hence the guarantee of success comes along when one tries to communicate effectively using the established techniques of this art and science. Though there are many trendsetters in this area too and new concepts and norms come and replace the old ones as in the fashion industry.

My conviction is that any good product can be sold if the marketing strategy is accurate, at least from your own side. Isn’t it? Hence we need the support of good communication skills to help our ideas reach people in the best possible way. So friends, lets try to communicate effectively from now on 