The mind is like a magnet and the key concept that governs all that one materializes via Law of Attraction is to think, ask and receiv.

We are always sensing signals and when we think passionately for something and start working along the lines, the universe opens its abundant treasure for us receive the gift. Everybody around seems to be discussing the magical aspect of this but do you really know about functionality of this concept. 

It may seem like a very New-Age stuff at first to many but there are historical evidences that such things have happened successfully in the past also. Think how Napoleon and Alexander dreamt of ruling the world and how they got most of it under their control. Was Law of attraction not working behind the curtains there?

Law of attraction is alternatively known as cosmic ordering, magical thinking, quantum mysticism and a lot more creating an aura of miracle around the concept.

Here is the explanation of this law:

When we intensely think of something, the energy of our thoughts starts building up.  When more of thought as well as hard work goes into it, the probability of its crossing a given threshold of energy increases and with persistent thought and relevant efforts in that direction; materialization comes through naturally.

This is how I perceive the Law of Attraction. There are many who disregard this golden concept as pseudo-science but the reality is that it works and it does not require our faith. Rather than delving into what others feel about this concept it is better to apply it at least once in our lives and see the results. One can do this from a rationalist point of view also.

The concept is deeply rooted in quantum physics given by Albert Einstein. Einstein said that Energy is Mass multiplied by the square of speed of light. This is the base for modern science and also the law of attraction.

Energy and matter are inter-convertible and hence there is complete possibility that your thoughts that may be waves of some form of charged particles may accumulate to produce what you wish for. The mind attracts the material form of the thought patterns we send in nature and we get what we had asked for. This is how mind attracts the materialized form of our thought patterns that are energy themselves. 

We all are energy as per Einstein’s proposition and hence our thoughts are also classifiable as energy. Energy equates with mass and hence I perceive materialization is possible. This is where the secret of law of attraction lies.

Many people have ambitions in their life. When they start working to achieve those goals and keep their focus constant the thought patterns and the action of endeavoring to achieve the goal create an interplay that finally ends up giving them what they had thought of.

The overall role of action, hard work or karma cannot be undermined here. The law of attraction works but not alone. Thoughts and relevant karma have to come together for the real magic to manifest. It is true that the universe is like a genie saying, “Master your action is my command” but O Dear Master you have to do the action or karma to have the genie dance to your tunes.

I would love to add one thing that we have to do our karma in order to get sure shot results. There is nothing on this planet that can come without karmic connectivity. Remember the old saying “First deserve and then desire”. The law of attraction works with similar ethical principles. 

If the law could have worked indiscriminately for all, Despots would use the law of attraction to control the whole world. Do the Despots deserve ruling this world? Obviously not, hence the discussion about karma popped up.  As far as I have seen, the law of attraction does not help to fulfill purposes that are detrimental in nature to the creation itself. Of course, how can the nature allow its own destruction?

You have to realize that your dreams and success should include other people; it is not just you and only you. God did not create us just to eat, drink, play, and get married, I am not saying that these are bad things of course we have to do them and they are essential but you have to realize that there is a larger purpose for your life.

You have unique mission on earth, something that really has a useful impact on other people’s life, and without looking for your mission and start doing it, you will feel that there is something missing in your life, you will have lack of Joy, deep fulfillment, and satisfaction with life.

I would like to warn you that the road is not easy, and you will face a lot of barriers and a lot of inhibitors that may say “Don’t expect so much, be happy with what you have” or “Just get a good job and build security” or “most people hate every minute of there jobs but they stay at the same job for 30 and 40 years because it is NOT OK to take risks.”

Although you will hear a lot of these negative messages, do not give up!
Know that you are well on your way accomplishing your goal because you love it and it will become true in front of your eyes.

So now, right now start dreaming, reach for the stars, you have a lot of amazing possibilities that are in front of you, get away your negative thoughts it has a bad impact on your unconscious thinking and therefore your current actions.

 
Say it to your self “I absolutely have what it takes to start dreaming and having the opportunity to make my dreams real and to actually live the life I desire”.

Believe in your dreams, honor them, value them and start pursuing them.
And always Remember Eleanor Roosevelt saying “The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their own dreams.”

Our action step for today is to take time from your busy schedule and find a quiet place and relaxes, then asks your self what do I really want?
Think deep then make a list of 10 things you would like to Be, Have, or Do,
then chose the most important five then three of them, and start dreaming then turn your dreams into goals your goals into plans and your plans into actions.

Let us try together to know how to start and go on to our success.

The first step to your success is to start dreaming! Yes dreaming, many successful people say that dreams are the beginning of any success.

 
“If you can dream it, you can do it.” As Walt Disney said.

So you have to start valuing your dreams and taking them more seriously and then you can take actions to achieve them.

“Nothing happens unless we first dream.” As Carl Sandburg said.

Ok, now some will say I will start to dream but, I will dream of doing or accomplishing small things, because I am afraid that if I dream of something big and I can not do it I will be depressed, but this is not the low of dreams, the low is If You are Going to dream, dream big, do not put a seal to your dreams, make it without limits, It doesn’t cost you a thing to dream.

This is a dream that leads you to success and whether you achieved your dream or not, do not worry as long as you are dreaming and trying you will succeed.

These kinds of dreams are easy for some people, but others are not used to them, because they did not grow up believing in it, and ideas like (it is wrong to take risk or you do not have the capability to change) are handed down to us from generation to generation.

for these reasons it may seem hard at the beginning, but we have to open the doorway beyond our current and patterned thinking otherwise it will be always holding us back. Know this, if you have the dream you have what it takes to achieve it.

In order to keep on dreaming try to find people who are dreamers, and people who are taking action to achieve these dreams, Look for them and be with them, understand how successful people think and act. Also read a lot about successful people, you will find that they started with a dream. Follow their success, you will find that they had big dreams because nobody makes it big by dreaming small.

Do not underestimate the power of positive support, you will find that it is essential in reaching your dreams and moving beyond your fears into the euphoria of achieving your dreams.

The next post I will writing more about dreams and what are the action steps to start your success with your dreams.

See you the next time.

So what should we do to have this great skill?

1- Show that you are listening. Pause any thing you are doing and pay attention by looking directly to the speaker, avoid to be distracted by environmental factors.

2- Listen not only to the words, but also try listening to the feelings of the person.

3- Focus on the body language. You will receive a lot of information of the message he wants to send.

4- Show interesting to what he is saying. Use facial expressions such as smiling every now and then node and encourage hem to speak by using small verbal comments such as yes, hmm, and uh huh.

Your posture is very important, make sure it is inviting and welcoming.

5- Paraphrase the words he is saying. What we understand from hearing is not always right so asking questions like: “Sounds like you are saying…” or I think you mean that…” is important to be sure that you have got the right message. Ask clarifying questions occasionally, and summarize the speaker’s comments periodically.

6- Do not interrupt.

7- Respond positively and respectfully. Even though you may disagree with speaker but you should start your respond with a positive message with   a respective way in order to make him relax and know that he is not in    a war, it is just a conversation even if you have a different point of view.

8- Lastly, treat the other person as he or she would want to be treated. Try to understand the person you are talking with and his backgrounds, so you can treat him in the right way.

You may see that these steps are long and hard, well I admit that they are not that easy It takes a lot of concentration and determination, but believe me by practice it will be very easy and you will do it unconsciously and when you are there be sure that you have developed a very important skill that will change your life and speed your success.

Our action step for today is:

Apply our steps of listening when you speak with people; also practice on thinking and speaking more positively. Try it with your close friends and family, after a while you will get familiar with this kind of listening and you will automatically do it with all people.

And remember that your ability to listen will have a positive impact not only on your effectiveness at work and home but also your success in your overall relationships with others.

First of all, what is right or wrong, good or bad is more likely depending on the person’s background; there are many factors that may influence the person’s opinion such as age, geographic location, Morality ethics, and customs. It’s useful to put all this in mind when listening to the point of view of another person knowing that his values may be different than yours.

The second thing to know is when some one talks to you and you have negative feelings towards him, you intend to oppose him, on some level they can feel this negative feelings and this will affect the conversation badly by influencing the message you want to deliver, that is because you will have an automatic reflex of self-protection.
On the other hand, if you really try to listen with caring and positive feelings, the person will feel it; as a result an atmosphere of cooperation can be created. This increases the possibility of resolving any conflict. This does not mean you agree with him, but rather understand what he is saying.

There are two main cases of listening, the first one is a regular talk with another person, most of the time we do not listen attentively, and moreover we get distracted as they are half listening, half thinking about something else.
The second case is if we are arguing with some one and we do not agree with him, the listener will assume that he is hearing what is the other person is saying, nevertheless he is not paying attention in fact he is focusing on how he will respond to win the argument.

When listening to someone be aware that you are not just listening to his words but you have to understand the whole message being sent. Remind your self that your goal is to hear what he is saying with concentration.
There are many barriers to active listening; including vocabulary, distraction and limited attention to the speaker, they all have an impact on the conversation.

We listen to learn, to understand, to obtain information, and for enjoyment.
Doing all this listening we should consider being good at it.
Active listening is an important skill we all have to be ware of it and try to learn it.
This skill will be useful for us in a lot situations including consulting, helping other people, management, and negotiation.

Follow me to know the step by step actions to improve your listening.

Action steps to improve our listening skills

Memory improvement is important for everyone, men, women, children, students, employers, employees; people of all categories need to have a solid memory because it really helps. A good memory especially with respect to mathematics makes number crunching very easy for several people. Remembering historical facts can be a boon for a student who is contending for a rank in a quiz show. Of course the magic of memory cannot be undermined in the context of traditional examinations. Memory is a vital resource and we must try our best to sharpen it to harness its complete potential.

There is a lot of improving memory techniques; we are going to talk about some of them in this post.

The best way we can enhance our memory is by relating things with each other:

By storing the complete imagery in our brains, the complete pool gets stored in a particular segment of our brain and the retrieval of relevant stuff from this pool is very easy. Storing such mental images helps to store more in a small space. We can even abbreviate certain concepts as per our convenience and the expanded version can be written or retrieved based on the linkage associated with the acronym.

There are many people that retrieve certain concepts time and again and ultimately the concepts are always at hand; this is pretty similar to cramming where the same concept is spoken over and over again to establish a mental cue but the drawback is that the whole mental image does not form and get stored in this case resulting in retrieval flaws. Ask the students that are prone to mugging up their notes before the examination and then their disastrous inability to write all that they had gobbled up indiscriminately. One must understand the concepts properly before storing in their brains to have proper storage that will lead to efficient retrieval.

Do you remember how Japanese kids use an imaginary abacus programmed through practice in their brains to calculate anything given to them? Well this is where persistent practice and exercise with the natural memory comes into play. We must try to train our kids on similar grounds and as far as our own development of memory is concerned we should at least start recalling important facts time to time to understand the efficacy of our built-in storage and retrieval mechanism.

Massaging the head the receiving acupuncture and acupressure treatments in connection with the meridians connecting with the mental faculties:

This can be a helpful alternative treatment for enhancing the power of memorization. According to Ayurveda Medical System of ancient India, the extract of Brahmi herb should be consumed to improve your memorization skills.

Regular aerobics and exercise along with a balanced diet:

Is yet another simple and effective way to ensure that one has a well-developed memorization potential. Pranayama and yogic postures are also helpful.

It is better not to take refuge in medicines to improve your memory because most of the time these medicines only accumulate toxins in your system and the intended goal remains far from your achievement.

We all want to progress in our respective areas of work and expertise and over dependence on machines especially computers has lead us towards not caring much for the innate memory skills nature has given us. We must start nurturing this gift for it really helps in its own unique way. Many times, it has been seen in real life incidents that children have helped construct the facial models of culprits through the image that they had in their memory. In examinations where calculators and computers are not involved, one has to rely on this natural memory that can work miracles if used properly and if trained in the correct way.

It is high time that we start depending on our built-in memories that are already present in our brains and explore the infinite potential of the same. All the very best 

There are various advantages of reading, and we are going to illustrate some of them today.

First of all reading a book opens someone else’s point of view and experience, imagine gaining the knowledge of hundreds of people some are dead and some are still living, that is a huge amount of information and experience, therefore reading different books of different styles contributes towards our knowledge in terms of human experiences and information, moreover, it widens our outlook and gives more opportunities to reach our success.

Reading has an influence on the process of building our personality greatly and it provides us with confidence to face the outside world.

Educational researchers have found a strong relation between reading and vocabulary knowledge therefore it makes us better at comprehension and manipulating words in speaking and composing. It also gives us greater levels of concentration and adds to our conversational skills.

Lastly reading is a way of relaxation and helps you to get to the new world of wonders and travel in it, forgetting about the reality, therefore widens your imagination and develops your way of thinking.

A good reader should not limit himself in reading one kind of material, there is such a wide band of reading materials on the market and he should benefit from them all.

If you are not reading and do not like to read it is the time to change that, you have to Improve the habit of reading and turn it into a healthy addiction which adds a lot of new information to you every day.

Our action step for today will help us to gain this habit even if we do not like reading.

1- First you have to convince your self that reading is important by reading articles like this one which concentrates on the benefits of reading.

2- Purchase a couple of small books with a topic you like, and start reading just a little each day, but do not end your day without reading.

3- Read with a purpose, that will help you to continue reading.

4- Give your self positive messages such as “ I am enjoying giving my brain a good work out” and “ this habit will sharpen my mind, and give me a sense of accomplishment as a good reader” and if you lose interest of what you are reading, no problem, take a break or read something else but do not stop reading.

5- After two or three weeks start to take more time in reading and read at least 20 to 30 minutes a day, also start reading larger books.

Within a little more time you will gain this habit and then you will understand the importance and utility of it.

Remember, having this habit is not easy but you should take whatever steps needed to help you to have it. So go pick up a book and start reading

This important and valuable habit is a main tool for developing the life of children, teenagers, and adults.

Reading is simply a way of getting knowledge and information and when researches was made on how well a nation is doing within all its conditions such as economic situation, education levels, health and so on, it was found that the literacy rate was an essential factor in the progress and improvement of nations, therefore countries that had experienced noticeable improving in its economic fortunes have increased their population’s education level.

In the past years reading was a primary leisure for most of the people as there were no televisions or computers but nowadays there is a lot of exiting ways of entertainments and receiving information, which is the reason that most of us ignored reading as a way of knowledge and leisure.

Although we receive a lot of information via television, radio and multimedia but none of them has the ability to provide us with education as the essential skill of reading.

Moreover reading is still a very important source of information, and it improves many other skills such as word power and vocabulary. 

With the advent of websites and eBooks reading has increased in its importance,

As not only you have millions of books to read in any topic you want, but also the occurrence of the internet and eBooks has Increased the possibility of reaching at any time and with less cost.

I want to give this tip for mums and dads, it is important to make their children and teenagers familiar with reading and to inculcate the value of it as soon as possible.

The reason is it was found that comparatively with less reading children and teenagers the ones who started reading from an early age are more creative, and has higher IQs.

On another point, they have better language skills, moreover they are comfortable with vocabulary and phonetics in a younger age and they are doing better at school. It also allows them to be able to express themselves better to others. 

So it is our responsibility as parents to create an attentive, and interested reader who can have all these skills and knowledge, by starting to read for them when they are young and give them books just to be familiar with, in addition, allowing them to see us read in front of them all the time.

The next time I am going to till you a bunch of benefits that you will gain from reading, and the action steps to follow which will help you to start reading and make it a habit.

Today we are going to talk about motivation, I think most of us know the word but some of us do not know how to apply it and use it in achieving goals, so let us go through it and try to understand its deeper meaning.

Motivation…What dose it mean?
In simple words it is anything or any one that encourages you to achieve something or to keep on doing it, in another words it simply means “a motive to take action”.

There are two kinds of motivation:

1- Internal motivation.
2- External Motivation.

Internal motivation is your thinking, your thoughts, and your internal messages that you give to your self. This is a very important factor of motivation, and by using it in the correct way you can own this strong tool of motivation.

External Motivation is any external source that can make you motivated, such as a friend, a story, a song, etc…

We need both kinds but, if our internal motivation is strong enough we can survive without a lot of External Motivation, besides, you do not always have a friend or a song to motivate you, but you always have your thoughts and your self talks anywhere and anytime. That what makes internal motivation more important.

So we now know the importance of motivation as if we do not have it, it is more likely that we are going to fail accomplishing a lot of things in our life.

Now you need to know what motivates you and what does it take for you to find motivation? Some people are motivated by power and other may be motivated by money so, what motivates you may not motivate me and vice versa, it is up to you to decide, this may take time but it is important to know what it takes to motivate you.

Let us talk a little about self talks, those little thoughts or talks that pass through or run around our minds, but be careful they are not just thoughts that come and go without affecting your attitude, on the contrary they have a great influence on our minds and therefore our actions and manners. It is always there so we must be careful of what ideas we give our unconsciousness mind.

If you think a little you will realize that we give our self a lot of negative messages, Such as “I will never be able to do this, or I am very tired this morning and depressed it will be an awful day in work” and so on.

These are dangerous negative messages; they can affect your attitude badly. We could change our attitude in life by only changing the way of thinking, so do not underestimate the power of thinking.

As we avoided negative thoughts we must give our mind a lot of positive thought,
even if we are in a serious problem or in a difficult situation, these positive thought have the power of getting you out of any problem that you face.

But there is always a moment of getting down and feeling depressed and you feel sorry for your self, at that moment go to a hospital and just take a look on the patients who are stuck in there beds or even go and watch the news or read the newspapers and you will see that there are many people worse than you, and that you are actually one of the lucky ones.

Finally, these are some action steps to apply some of what we have read and get out with some benefits::

1- Believe in your self, believe that you can do any thing only if you want to, and just give your self positive ideas on a daily base such as (I am very good today, my day will be perfect and it will go on just like I want) and so on.

2- Avoid negative people, there are people that are loaded with negative ideas
and being around them will defiantly affect you, so keep away of these guys and try to be around positive people. You will not believe the amount of energy you will get just being around someone carrying positive thoughts.

3- Do everything with a reason, and try to make those reasons have positive emotions they are more conductive to your success than doing it for reasons that have negative emotions.

4- Help other people to succeed and reach their goal, giving is a very strong motivation for a lot of people and I am one of them, it is one of the best moments of my life when I am able to help someone. Giving leads you to personal fulfillment which helps you to succeed in your life.

We all have something we want to accomplish we might want to make more money, improve our lifestyle, or do anything else, and to do things right and keep on doing it you must find the right motivation, and always try to strengthen your internal motivation and make it your essential source of motivation and as I read once, “the right motivation is a powerful driving force that can help you to hang in there and keep you moving toward your goal“.

Hypnosis is a method to improve oneself. It has been wrongly represented in movies as an art of controlling someone else’s senses involuntarily and making them do notorious actions at the will of the hypnotherapist. In fact, hypnosis is not such a system. It is a non invasive system that has helped many people become better. It is truly an effective self help tool that can help in many ways. It is always advisable to seek the help of certified hypnotherapists.

Hypnotherapy is in fact a mental healing method that programs your senses and brain along with the subconscious mind to take up positive suggestions and help you to bring this positive thinking attitude within yourself. Dedicated hypnotherapists have helped several people stay away from alcohol and excess intake of food. Drug addicts and patients of serious diseases have also been benefitted by the infinite potential of this healing art. Self hypnosis is a great method of helping oneself sitting at home. Several hypnotherapists have created their own cassettes and tapes for assisting you in the process of self hypnosis. One simply has to turn the tape on and surrender to the soothing suggestions so that the subconscious mind picks them up, thereby resulting in conditioning of the mind.

Several psychiatrists have successfully helped their patients to cope with serious disorders through powerful suggestions in the past and this movement is going on to bring forth tranquility in the minds of many who are still in need of care. There are several self hypnosis tools available in the markets. It is better to seek guidance from experienced hypnotherapists before commencing any such self improvement program. There are some self hypnosis cassettes and CDs labeled as spiritual hypnosis tools that provide hypnotic suggestions that are spiritual in nature. Hypnosis has great healing effects because it affects your nerve cells directly. One has to be aware and definitely not asleep during self hypnosis to obtain the maximum benefit.

In this era of the Internet, there are several resources on the worldwide web that can provide you access to free resources that can assist in self improvement using hypnosis as a tool. The effects of hypnosis are subtle and the gross change is observed after continuing with the practice for a long time. It is said that slow and steady wins the race and so is the case with hypnosis as well. It is advisable to stick to a specific regime of hypnosis to harness its true potential.

An acquaintance was troubled with obesity since last 5 years. One day this lady met a psychiatrist and was suggested clinical hypnosis for a few days. The therapist then created a compact disc for this lady containing healthy suggestions about satiety and amount of food intake. Eventually her mind started picking up the cues and her nervous system was fine tuned to accept these patterns of thinking and relating with respect to food and exercise and she started eating in a healthy and nourishing manner. Within a period of a few months she was transformed into the most beautiful and slim lady around. This may sound like a miracle but it has happened because of the continuous effort on her part to use the self improvement tool given to her by her therapist.

Needless to reiterate, hypnotherapy can be used as a great self help tool to bring forth total transformation in your personality in a very gentle and nurturing manner.