You have to realize that your dreams and success should include other people; it is not just you and only you. God did not create us just to eat, drink, play, and get married, I am not saying that these are bad things of course we have to do them and they are essential but you have to realize that there is a larger purpose for your life.

You have unique mission on earth, something that really has a useful impact on other people’s life, and without looking for your mission and start doing it, you will feel that there is something missing in your life, you will have lack of Joy, deep fulfillment, and satisfaction with life.

I would like to warn you that the road is not easy, and you will face a lot of barriers and a lot of inhibitors that may say “Don’t expect so much, be happy with what you have” or “Just get a good job and build security” or “most people hate every minute of there jobs but they stay at the same job for 30 and 40 years because it is NOT OK to take risks.”

Although you will hear a lot of these negative messages, do not give up!
Know that you are well on your way accomplishing your goal because you love it and it will become true in front of your eyes.

So now, right now start dreaming, reach for the stars, you have a lot of amazing possibilities that are in front of you, get away your negative thoughts it has a bad impact on your unconscious thinking and therefore your current actions.

 
Say it to your self “I absolutely have what it takes to start dreaming and having the opportunity to make my dreams real and to actually live the life I desire”.

Believe in your dreams, honor them, value them and start pursuing them.
And always Remember Eleanor Roosevelt saying “The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their own dreams.”

Our action step for today is to take time from your busy schedule and find a quiet place and relaxes, then asks your self what do I really want?
Think deep then make a list of 10 things you would like to Be, Have, or Do,
then chose the most important five then three of them, and start dreaming then turn your dreams into goals your goals into plans and your plans into actions.

Let us try together to know how to start and go on to our success.

The first step to your success is to start dreaming! Yes dreaming, many successful people say that dreams are the beginning of any success.

 
“If you can dream it, you can do it.” As Walt Disney said.

So you have to start valuing your dreams and taking them more seriously and then you can take actions to achieve them.

“Nothing happens unless we first dream.” As Carl Sandburg said.

Ok, now some will say I will start to dream but, I will dream of doing or accomplishing small things, because I am afraid that if I dream of something big and I can not do it I will be depressed, but this is not the low of dreams, the low is If You are Going to dream, dream big, do not put a seal to your dreams, make it without limits, It doesn’t cost you a thing to dream.

This is a dream that leads you to success and whether you achieved your dream or not, do not worry as long as you are dreaming and trying you will succeed.

These kinds of dreams are easy for some people, but others are not used to them, because they did not grow up believing in it, and ideas like (it is wrong to take risk or you do not have the capability to change) are handed down to us from generation to generation.

for these reasons it may seem hard at the beginning, but we have to open the doorway beyond our current and patterned thinking otherwise it will be always holding us back. Know this, if you have the dream you have what it takes to achieve it.

In order to keep on dreaming try to find people who are dreamers, and people who are taking action to achieve these dreams, Look for them and be with them, understand how successful people think and act. Also read a lot about successful people, you will find that they started with a dream. Follow their success, you will find that they had big dreams because nobody makes it big by dreaming small.

Do not underestimate the power of positive support, you will find that it is essential in reaching your dreams and moving beyond your fears into the euphoria of achieving your dreams.

The next post I will writing more about dreams and what are the action steps to start your success with your dreams.

See you the next time.

So what should we do to have this great skill?

1- Show that you are listening. Pause any thing you are doing and pay attention by looking directly to the speaker, avoid to be distracted by environmental factors.

2- Listen not only to the words, but also try listening to the feelings of the person.

3- Focus on the body language. You will receive a lot of information of the message he wants to send.

4- Show interesting to what he is saying. Use facial expressions such as smiling every now and then node and encourage hem to speak by using small verbal comments such as yes, hmm, and uh huh.

Your posture is very important, make sure it is inviting and welcoming.

5- Paraphrase the words he is saying. What we understand from hearing is not always right so asking questions like: “Sounds like you are saying…” or I think you mean that…” is important to be sure that you have got the right message. Ask clarifying questions occasionally, and summarize the speaker’s comments periodically.

6- Do not interrupt.

7- Respond positively and respectfully. Even though you may disagree with speaker but you should start your respond with a positive message with   a respective way in order to make him relax and know that he is not in    a war, it is just a conversation even if you have a different point of view.

8- Lastly, treat the other person as he or she would want to be treated. Try to understand the person you are talking with and his backgrounds, so you can treat him in the right way.

You may see that these steps are long and hard, well I admit that they are not that easy It takes a lot of concentration and determination, but believe me by practice it will be very easy and you will do it unconsciously and when you are there be sure that you have developed a very important skill that will change your life and speed your success.

Our action step for today is:

Apply our steps of listening when you speak with people; also practice on thinking and speaking more positively. Try it with your close friends and family, after a while you will get familiar with this kind of listening and you will automatically do it with all people.

And remember that your ability to listen will have a positive impact not only on your effectiveness at work and home but also your success in your overall relationships with others.

Today we are going to talk about motivation, I think most of us know the word but some of us do not know how to apply it and use it in achieving goals, so let us go through it and try to understand its deeper meaning.

Motivation…What dose it mean?
In simple words it is anything or any one that encourages you to achieve something or to keep on doing it, in another words it simply means “a motive to take action”.

There are two kinds of motivation:

1- Internal motivation.
2- External Motivation.

Internal motivation is your thinking, your thoughts, and your internal messages that you give to your self. This is a very important factor of motivation, and by using it in the correct way you can own this strong tool of motivation.

External Motivation is any external source that can make you motivated, such as a friend, a story, a song, etc…

We need both kinds but, if our internal motivation is strong enough we can survive without a lot of External Motivation, besides, you do not always have a friend or a song to motivate you, but you always have your thoughts and your self talks anywhere and anytime. That what makes internal motivation more important.

So we now know the importance of motivation as if we do not have it, it is more likely that we are going to fail accomplishing a lot of things in our life.

Now you need to know what motivates you and what does it take for you to find motivation? Some people are motivated by power and other may be motivated by money so, what motivates you may not motivate me and vice versa, it is up to you to decide, this may take time but it is important to know what it takes to motivate you.

Let us talk a little about self talks, those little thoughts or talks that pass through or run around our minds, but be careful they are not just thoughts that come and go without affecting your attitude, on the contrary they have a great influence on our minds and therefore our actions and manners. It is always there so we must be careful of what ideas we give our unconsciousness mind.

If you think a little you will realize that we give our self a lot of negative messages, Such as “I will never be able to do this, or I am very tired this morning and depressed it will be an awful day in work” and so on.

These are dangerous negative messages; they can affect your attitude badly. We could change our attitude in life by only changing the way of thinking, so do not underestimate the power of thinking.

As we avoided negative thoughts we must give our mind a lot of positive thought,
even if we are in a serious problem or in a difficult situation, these positive thought have the power of getting you out of any problem that you face.

But there is always a moment of getting down and feeling depressed and you feel sorry for your self, at that moment go to a hospital and just take a look on the patients who are stuck in there beds or even go and watch the news or read the newspapers and you will see that there are many people worse than you, and that you are actually one of the lucky ones.

Finally, these are some action steps to apply some of what we have read and get out with some benefits::

1- Believe in your self, believe that you can do any thing only if you want to, and just give your self positive ideas on a daily base such as (I am very good today, my day will be perfect and it will go on just like I want) and so on.

2- Avoid negative people, there are people that are loaded with negative ideas
and being around them will defiantly affect you, so keep away of these guys and try to be around positive people. You will not believe the amount of energy you will get just being around someone carrying positive thoughts.

3- Do everything with a reason, and try to make those reasons have positive emotions they are more conductive to your success than doing it for reasons that have negative emotions.

4- Help other people to succeed and reach their goal, giving is a very strong motivation for a lot of people and I am one of them, it is one of the best moments of my life when I am able to help someone. Giving leads you to personal fulfillment which helps you to succeed in your life.

We all have something we want to accomplish we might want to make more money, improve our lifestyle, or do anything else, and to do things right and keep on doing it you must find the right motivation, and always try to strengthen your internal motivation and make it your essential source of motivation and as I read once, “the right motivation is a powerful driving force that can help you to hang in there and keep you moving toward your goal“.

Be it a child or an adult, a man or a woman, there is no age and sex bar for self–improvement to attain success. There are many inherent lacunae in people’s personalities, mannerisms and ways of working where they need to focus their attention and start working along the lines to remove those defects and commence the journey for self-improvement. Self-improvement is a multi-faceted activity, rather a set of activities aimed at bringing out the real you by carving the personality meticulously.

One has to first jot down where and how one feels within as to where there are voids to be filled. Sometimes you may sense that there are voids that hamper your success but there may be no voids as such. They may be only your mental projections may be creating obstacles at times. In such a case it is always better to see a counselor who can help you by interviewing you or giving you a questionnaire to fill up to judge what type of a person you are. The counselor may then suggest several positive-thinking techniques that you may choose from and make your own self-improvement plan to taste success in life.

You can learn self-improvement online at www.success-stuff.com and we have ample resources to show you how to be successful. There are also several websites where you can take an online tests and exercises to know the secrets of your personality. On the basis of the results of such a test you can decide what steps to take for grooming yourself. These website also provides self-improvement help in the form of affordable packages that contain flash cards for affirmations, cassettes for “Neuro-linguistic programming (NLP) or self hypnosis”, videos that can help you with self esteem improvement and also teach you how to change your attitude. These packages have all the necessary tools to bring you success through a positive mental attitude. There are several free self-improvement e-books as well that can you can utilize and learn to be successful.

All of these techniques are targeted towards fine-tuning your mind towards the goals that you have decided for grooming yourself. You can have posters in your room containing positive thinking quotes you may come across during the day a few times and repeat to yourself to reinforce the mind-training activity. You must stick to this schedule for a long time to obtain permanent effects because “Rome was not built in a day”.

There are many ways to start the process of self-improvement. What you desire may be a change in attitude, change in your style of working, a boost in your self-confidence or whatever; it is you who have to take the initiative. However, in order to begin you have to seek help somewhere. This site success-stuff.com will help you to take the first step.

Some of the steps or exercises may be long-term goals and have a life transforming effect. There are many self-improvement books also offered on success-stuff.com that you can follow to begin with. Stick to your routine if you really want to see the miracle. Nurture yourself properly. Eat well and sleep well while on such a regime. It would be very nice if you take a stroll in the morning and appreciate natural beauty to create a pathway for positive mental attitude. Following the guidelines about self-improvement on success-stuff.com can do rest of the related work. Don’t expect too much in the beginning. Remember: “Slow and steady wins the race”. It is advisable to keep a journal of your daily activities to keep track of your progress. Moreover, this is your race to attain success, so give adequate time to your body, mind and spirit to move ahead.